RISHTA AUNTY PLIS!

Rejections are worst. The current social scenario of picking the bride created by the mother and sister of groom themselves (or rishta aunties?) is ridiculous, insulting and demotivating, given that the mother and sister of groom themselves are females. It is spouse selection for the girl too, the decision of her entire life as well, so she must be given equal rights and freedom to comfortably breathe in the environment and may as well question the groom and his family like she and her family are being questioned.

One of the aunty I heard, who was saying about the rishta she was telling to another aunty at an event:

"Larkay walay bht daray hue hen k un k sath kahen dhoka na hojae!"

(Translations: Boy's family is afraid of facing a scam.")

I thought that it is the girl who should be afraid the most because she is leaving behind those whom she trust and giving her life and trust in the hands of total stranger. That stranger who knows after marriage is keeping secret affairs in the name of friendship? That stranger might not be someone the girl always dreamed of having? 

It takes some guts to take a leap like that now, leaving everything literally everything behind! But who cares about the girl? She must be thankful in the first place that she was considered as an eligible candidate by a boy and/or his family in the first place! *sarcastic* 

They'll come, they will look at the house and its decor analyzing the financial status of the girl and her family, they'll be the critic on serving and hospitality no matter how down to earth the parents of the girl get, they will eat food, look at the girl as if she is an auction item or a decoration piece and then they will leave. They won't answer back no matter how low the girl feels each passing day about being "acceptable" and no matter how guilty the parents of the girl feel for no reason. Then collecting all the courage up, mother of the girl will call the mother or the groom or concerned party about their "views and reviews" and she will come to know some amazing, heart breaking reasons of why the girl is being rejected: 

• she has a fat nose.
• she is not tall enough.
• her eyes are not big.
• or simply intekhara nahi aya.

In short they had the evening feast for free and now they are no longer concerned about anything!! What about the actual things about her like;

• she is intelligent.
• she is an achiever.
• a strong woman suitable for my son to raise his generation.
• she is too honest.
• she is innovative and social, will keep relations strongly bounded. etc

Umm which are the things your son will need in his spouse within 5 years and for life time! People tend to forget a lot that girls have dreams too. They have the right to everything as much as the man has. If you are looking for a model come cook come everything pathetic why not marry your super star son to a super star celebrity? 

This is an attempt to just portray how Rishta Mafia is taking over the society and crossing all civilized standards and demoralizing the girls. My friends who faced the situation told the stories that make me kind of do not want to marry at all if the procedure of marriage is this. 

I am the kind of woman who if ever get to face this type of bull shit (God forbid), am gonna call the boy himself and point out his bald head, his overly intruding sister, his acne filled face and clarify the fact that his salary did not impress me I clearly am not seeking a sponsor I can earn for my living myself and how much his dressing sense was so NOT my type so that he knows what rejection feels like and what confidence it takes to regain on life. (if that boy got a heart to feel all this that is) :P